Sunday, April 17, 2011
It’s really nice to see good manners
So it was really nice to actually see someone displaying good manners for a change. On Saturday I was in the queue at the checkpoint of the supermarket, and the lady in front of me was an old woman, who was shopping by herself. The cashier was so nice to this old woman that I had to write about it. She greeted the old woman with a huge warm smile, patiently waited while the woman took a long time to unpack all her groceries, then smiled when the old woman said she could not afford to buy everything and left some items behind. While the old woman took a while looking for change in her purse, the cashier spoke to her happily. Then the old woman bought airtime for her cellphone and the cashier noticed that she was struggling with it, so she actually took the time to take the old lady’s phone and upload the airtime, while explaining to her how to do it. While doing this she apologised to me, as I was the next customer waiting to be served. Of course, I couldn’t be bothered how long she took. I was standing and watching this pleasant exchange with warmth in my heart, finding it reassuring that there is hope left for humanity after all.
Now, I don’t mean to pick on the faults of others, and I really do pray that Allah makes it easy for all of us to display the best of manners. I also understand that people have bad days and that sometimes we just get so angry that we really can’t control our feelings, but just look at the difference between the first woman I mentioned here, and the second one I mentioned. Look at the example they’ve set and the impact they’ve had on the lives of people around them. Which woman would you rather be around? Of course the answer to that question is obvious.
Our Noble and Beloved Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) was the most excellent of people and displayed the best of manners. I’m sure you all know the story of the time the Prophet (PBUH) offered to help an old lady with her parcels and while they walked she warned the Prophet (PBUH) to stay away from a man named Muhammad, because she had heard bad things about him. (The bad things were things like he divided the nation by preaching his message, he says that the religion of their ancestors are false, etc, -and no attack on his character as this was impossible). Then when they reach her home she asks the Prophet (PBUH) ; “What is your name young man?” And the Prophet (PBUH) says humbly; “Muhammad”. Can you imagine what good manners and great character the Prophet had? To listen to someone say all these bad things about you and remain silent and humble, and still continue helping them. SubhanAllah. There are so many other stories, but this one always moves me.
The point is that we have no excuse for bad manners and rudeness. No matter how bad a day we’re having, how sick we feel or whatever difficulties we may be going through. Even if the next person has wronged us, there is no excuse to treat people badly. Screaming, shouting and swearing is not the way Muslims are supposed to be. Good manners and good character is an important part of our religion. It’s what attracted people to Islam in the time of the Prophet (PBUH). Without it we will never have an impact on anyone. We should all try to be more like the cashier I met on Saturday, if we were, the world would be a better place.
May The Almighty Allah guide us all and help us to have good manners and the best of characters. Let us remember the teaching of the Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) that even a smile is regarded as charity.