Tuesday, July 27, 2010

And that’s why I stopped caring...

Anyone who may have been watching CNN last Wednesday (or Tuesday Night in some places) would have seen the main story, continuously playing. “Lindsay Lohan will be spending time in jail”. Larry King had a special segment where he interviewed Lindsay’s father and his lawyer. This story was big news and even someone like me who has been out of touch with the world of celebrities suddenly found myself paying attention.

Watching this story really made me feel sad for this young woman. I remember her in “The Parent Trap”, a cute, innocent little girl, and I couldn’t help but to contemplate on all the false promises of this temporary world and the outcomes of this. This reminded me exactly why I stopped caring about Hollywood celebrities and their so-called fairytale lives.

There was a time when I did care; in fact I cared a lot. Like so many other people I was upset by the news of Jennifer Aniston and Brad Pitt’s divorce. I was happy when Julia Roberts finally seemed to find her soul mate. I was intrigued by the friendship of Ben Affleck and Matt Damon and thought that it was “so cool”. I had my favourite celebrity couples, and the one’s I hated together. I read about their lives and wanted to know more. They were interesting and their lives together were glamorous... Well of course that’s what they need us to think right, otherwise we’d all just lose interest in them.

Alhamdullillah my eyes began to open up to reality and soon all the “glamour” and the appeal began to reveal itself for the fake that it really is. Looking at celebrities with open eyes I could now see how sad most of them really are and how much they’ve become entrapped in a world which offers them many pleasures, but forget’s to mention that with these pleasures comes heartache, loneliness and constant worry. A world that offers no peace and privacy, and a world where a woman cannot afford to leave her home without her make-up, because if she does she’ll make entertainment headlines and everyone will be talking about how “ugly” she looks.

When I look at this and I see what Islam offers women, I feel extremely grateful that I am a Muslim woman. I may not have exquisite beauty, the perfect figure, fame, money, huge mansions, fancy cars, designer clothes, ... but I am thankful to my Allah that I do have peace of mind and self-esteem. I do not have to wonder who I really am and whether I’ll ever be accepted for just being myself. I do not have to search for anything and everything to fill my life, because despite all that I have, I still feel empty inside. No, Alhamdullillah, being a Muslim woman affords me the luxury of knowing that I am fulfilled by my faith and belief, and this is a gift that is incomparable to anything else in this world.

When I step out of my home donned in my hijab and covered modestly, I know that others may be looking at me, feeling me sorry, believing that I am oppressed, but in my heart I know the truth and my love for Allah and Islam empowers me more than anything. It makes me want to be a better person, because it reminds me that I am more than just a physical figure, I am a whole human being! People may not be making a big deal about how beautiful and popular I am, but at least I can feel free, knowing that those who do show an interest in me are genuinely interested in me as a person and not as an idolized figure.

It seems like everything regarded as glamorous in this world actually comes with a price, and I am so grateful for being a Muslim because Islam offers true beauty and there are no illusions or deception. I still believe that it is sad to see people like this who live in a society that makes them think they are free and liberated, but in reality, they seem more oppressed and trapped than I will ever be.

All praise is due to Allah for giving us Muslims the perfect way of life, one that allows us to find true peace, contentment and happiness, because as Allah reminds us in the Hold Qur’aan, “it is only in the remembrance of Allah that hearts find rest”.
Image taken from: islamicsunrays.com/tag/salat-in-strange-places/


  1. Beautiful post mashallah.. and very true.
    I have never been interested in celebrities life (Arabs, eastern or western) but I would read about them when I came across their news in a magazine.
    I remember I used to love to by a weekly Arabic magazine which was great in all aspects except that half of its pages are about celebrities, whether they were singers, actors or else. Later on I knew it was a waste of my time and money and just quited buying it.
    Alhamdulilah for being Muslim :)

  2. Salam, sis..

    Just yesterday a professor from the US came to my office and requested to interview me on the topic of 'Islam and its way of life'

    Amongst the questions she asked were:
    1. Are you forced to wear hijab
    2. What does it feel if you go out not wearing one?
    3. Are men in Islam really like those portrayed by international media such as CNN?
    4. Are you happy with your life?
    5. Are you free to go anywhere or do anything that you like?
    6. Why can't Muslims consume alcohol and pork?

    Towards the end she really had her jaw dropped down to get to know that Islam is really beautiful. It's a religion for everyone.

    She finally confessed that all this while she has been misled by the media. We have made an appointement to meet again next month to discuss more on Islam.

    Alhamdulillah... Allah is Great!

  3. mashallah this is a wonderful post! was an absolute pleasure to read. i couldn't agree with you more about how great it feels to not live life by superficial standards alhamdulillah. i can't stand the gossip anymore and the unhealthy images that are constantly being thrown at our faces.

    great job sis!

  4. Sisters Jazakallah Khayr, glad you liked the post. Its true Islam is such a true and perfect way, Alhamdullillah. It's amazing how one becomes so uninterested in all the falsities once your heart begins to see the truth.

    Sister Ati, Alhamdullillah, Its great that you had a chance to explain true Islam to someone. There's so many misconceptions out there and most people blindly believe it. When people actually take the time to find out the truth they are often surprised, this shows the truth about Islam and Allah's Greatness. May Allah make it easy for us all to have many chances of displaying true Islam to others.

    Thanks for your comments sisters, stay well:)

  5. jAZAKALLAH KHAYR for such a great and beutiful entry sister. Yes.. keep on our modesty in dressing and be proud of wearing hijab. Alhamdulillah..