Life is about mixed feelings. Nothing is ever really clear cut.
There’s always happiness that comes with some sadness, or the other way around.
Most people are never completely satisfied. Every choice seems to come with a sacrifice,
while at the same time it may come with benefits. It’s possible that you love
something yet hate some parts of that thing at the same time. It’s possible to
be relieved to no longer have a certain responsibility, yet you may miss it (or
some part of it) at the same time. Human beings are complex creatures. Perhaps
this is why Allah Almighty says in the Glorious Quraan something to the effect
that the children of Adam (pbuh) are always troublesome. We are never
completely satisfied with anything!
And while we may think that clear-cut and easy situations would
be better, we still can’t help asking ourselves whether a one-dimensional life
would really be fulfilling. I can guarantee you that someone who had constant
happiness would eventually get so tired of it that they’d be longing for some
sadness or some trouble, just so that their routine could be broken. A lot of
us search for the perfect life, but the sort of perfection we yearn and strive
for is elusive. This is why we see people in a constant state of depression and
unhappiness, because they are searching and yearning for something that doesn’t
exist, and all the while they are ignoring what does exist.
Some of us may have bigger difficulties than others. Some of us
may be living the type of life we always wished we would never live. Some of us
are sitting and asking ourselves, “why did this have to happen to me?” Some may
be wondering when things will change… How many of us realize that with every
situation, through all the mixed feelings, the key is the choices we are going
to make. The choices we inevitably make is going to be the determining factor
for us, in this world and the hereafter.
So instead of focusing on the sadness, what if we choose to
focus on the happiness? And in every situation, what if we choose to search for
the lessons? What if we choose to take the messages that Allah Almighty is
giving us? What if we choose to understand that our lives are individually
tailored by Allah for each of us? A special exam has been set for each one of
us. We are given tips throughout the way, and Allah (most Glorious) is so
generous that He saves us
from doing the wrong thing many times, and He directs
us and guides us back to the right. All we have to do is to focus, then we’ll
see that Allah is doing things for our own good, and we’ll understand that the
hardest lessons are the ones that are the most worth learning.
The way I like to see life is that everything that happens to
us, whether long-term or short-term is an experience. It’s something else to
add to our “Life CV (or resume)”. One day we’ll understand why we’ve had all
these experiences, one day these experiences will come in handy. Each
experience benefits us and gives us more worth, and better skills.
Mixed feelings, well that’s what makes life interesting, and as
for choices, this is something we all have, in every situation. Maybe it’s time
we focus on the choices we keep making instead of focusing on the negative in
our lives. We may just finding that it’s not our lives that are negative, but
it’s our choices that are causing all the negativity.
For now, I am making a conscious choice to embrace whatever
comes my way, whatever is still to come I pray to Allah to give me the ability
to deal with it positively. I am making the choice to smile at the fact that I
am able to experience mixed feelings, because this means that I have been
granted the gift of experience and the even bigger gift to learn valuable
lessons from this experience. But I cannot forget the greatest gift of all, and
that is the fact that Allah Almighty wants me to be a person who can understand
and comprehend reality, (not the fake illusion which is sold to us as reality) and Allah wants me to just be true to myself!
What about you? What choices are you going to be making right
now? And how do you deal with having mixed feelings? Share your thoughts, we all have so much to
learn from each other!
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