Wednesday, February 16, 2011

Life is so fragile!

Today was a sad day; A friend of mine lost her husband. She is a friend but I refer to her as aunty because she’s much older than me. Anyway, they spent most of their lives together. I remember whenever I went to her house her husband was around, (he was a doctor so he got to decide his own work hours). He was a friendly uncle, someone down to earth and easygoing. I always remember thinking that they had such a good relationship. Up until recently they were studying further together, and they’d always be able to talk to you about important world events and such stuff.

As I waited at the hospital for this aunty to emerge from the room where her husband had just passed away I didn’t know what to say or think. Every time someone passes away it’s the same thing, the inevitability of death hits you hard. When she emerged I couldn’t believe that it was the same person I knew. It’s been a while since I last saw her but not that long. Today she looked tired, thin and sad. A vague resemblance of the bubbly and vibrant woman I’d sit with and happily discuss all types of issues. This reminded me of exactly how fragile life is. People are here and then before you know it, they’re gone. We take our health for granted, but this is something we should be more thankful of.

In our ladies workshops we learn about the stories of the Prophet’s (May Allah’s Peace and Blessings be upon them all). It’s strange that just this morning we learnt about a lady in the time of Nuh (AS) who came to complain to the Prophet Nuh that her baby had died. When Nuh (AS) asked her how old the baby was, she said he was something like 350 years old (I hope I have the number correct). Then Nuh (AS) told her that there will come a time when people will only live for about 70 years, and she said that if she had such a short lifespan she’d spend every day in sajdah (prostration to Allah). This is how precious our time on this earth is, but still we take life for granted.

We live like we’re going to live forever, we’ve forgotten that death is around the corner and that the grave awaits us. We’ve overlooked the hereafter and we act like we will have forever to repent and to change our ways. Life is fragile, it’s over in a flash, before you know it the people who were laughing and talking are gone! Soon, we will be amongst those who have passed. Have we prepared enough?

Life is so short, on the day of judgement it will seem like we were on this earth for a day only. The hereafter is eternal. I know it’s hard and we get caught up in this world, but Inshaa Allah perhaps we should all try to work harder for the hereafter and remember that life is indeed extremely fragile.

May the Almighty give peace to all those who have passed away. May Allah save them from the punishment in the grave and give them Jannah (paradise). And May Allah make it easy for the families of those who have passed. Inshaa Allah Ameen.


  1. My dear sister.
    Thanks for sharing this although it's such a sad post. I'm so sorry for your auntie's loss!!! It must be so hard for her :( May Allah (swt) grant her husband Jannah and may He ease her pain, ameen.
    It's true that life is so fragile and we always become reminded of this, when someone passes away... Thanks for sharing about the woman and Prophet Nuh (AS)! This sentence "...she said that if she had such a short lifespan she’d spend every day in sajdah (prostration to Allah)" really makes you think!! It's simply too crazy to take this life for granted and not every day show Allah (swt) our gratitude and devotion.
    Take care dear sister <3 <3 <3

  2. Dear rose water- Jazakallah Khayr for your prayers and kind words. May Allah reward you, even a kind word said to someone is regarded as charity and you will be rewarded for it.

    May Allah make it easy not to take life for granted and help us to always remember how short life is. Truly Allah is Most merciful.

  3. Asalamu ailakuam, sister Zarina,
    I found you through Jnana's blog. I'm so sorry to hear about the loss of your 'aunty's' husband. May Allah cleanse him from his sins, make his grave a garden of paradise and reward him with jannatul firudas. May Allah grant your friend patience and faith to deal with this loss.

    Thank you for this very important reminder. I also heard that story of that woman in Prophet Nuh's time. SubhanAllah.

    Jazakillah koli khair.

  4. Dear Little Auntie- Wa alaikumus salaam and welcome to this blog. Jazakallah Khayr for your beautiful duaa, inshaa Allah it will be accepted.

    The story of the lady in Nuh's (AS) time is such a simple one, yet so important and a profound reminder for us all. Alhamdullillah truly Allah has not made life difficult for us.

    I hope to hear more from you in future inshaa Allah, stay well sister:)

  5. Dear Zarina,

    I've just found your blog and I am sorry for the lose of your friend. These are always hard times but know now that her husband is in Peace, close to God. May God help her in her sorrow.

    Life is short and we should take more time being grateful, do good things and pray.
    Thank you for sharing this story with us. Take good care of yourself.

  6. Dear Marie

    Thank you so much for your kind and wise words. The right words said to someone in sad times can make the worlds difference.

    Looking forward to hearing more from you.

    Stay well always :)